The answer to this question will depend on your personal philosophy, personality, temperament, culture, and habits. There is no universal formula but there are several general principles that potentially may be applicable to many individuals.
a) Friends and enemies of happiness :
Loneliness , interaction and sharing
Loneliness is generally our enemy. Genetically we are programmed to interact with other people. Majority of children will spontaneously join groups and start to play.
It looks like we derived most emotional benefits from interaction with peers. Regardless of our age or health, we psychologically benefit when company of people that are in the same situation as us.
Support groups are effective because you got connected very easily with people with a similar life situation whether good or bad. Everybody should have some sort of a support group-not only alcoholics or sick people.
People in similar life situations tend to be connected better, because they share mutual feelings, experiences, plans and wisdom.
Life is about sharing and learning.
Once you become richer you would like to share this wealth with your wife and children; however, we share money as well as knowledge, advice and insight.
If you spend many years solving one problem by studying and acquiring skills, you usually share this with those who you love the most.
If you acquire something, either money, or knowledge or skills you become a unique combination of these �ingredients.� It is our strong inner desire to �show the world� our experience.
What is the purpose of knowledge if you are not going to share it with other people?
By sharing our unique combination of beliefs, insight and wisdom we become fulfilled and happy.
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